Today, I had the pleasure of a visit from Amy, one of my favorite ICU nurses. We visited Katie's bench, and took a long walk through Poulsbo, along the waterfront, around Lemolo Point and back to town. Amy had not been able to attend Katie's memorial service, so we watched Katie's slideshow, and stopped by Kiana Lodge, which is down the street from our house (where her service was held). We got permission to walk the grounds, so I could show Amy the gardens, the beach and the path along the waterfront to the dock. I showed her where the fireworks were set off. Katie wanted a party, not a funeral...and she got one. We had hot and cold hors d'oeuvres, beer, wine, coffee, punch and four cakes. There were flowers in bloom all over the grounds, flowers in the lodge, children playing outside after the service, and it was all lovely. Katie had wanted to have her wedding reception there, and we did the best we could to give her a service that would honor her wishes. It was good to be able to give Amy a sense of what it was like.
I enjoyed sharing memories of Katie, and of our time in the ICU, with Amy; memories of Katie's spunk, sparkle and strong healing spirit. It may be like a war experience, being in the ICU. The relationships revolve around the survival of someone dear to us, and the nurses are truly angels, helping us to cope with many distressing things that are foreign, or new to us. Amy helped me to learn how to help her care for Katie, so I felt less powerless and restless. Amy encouraged Katie and gave her love, whether Katie appeared to be conscious or not. Amy held hope for her healing, and supported our hope. She comforted all of us. Thank you, Amy, and all of our nurses!