My friend Elizabeth sent me a link to an article that is so profound, and so deeply what I believe, that I am going to give you a link to it. The article is called, "Through a Glass Darkly" and it is an interview with Miriam Greenspan "On Moving From Grief To Gratitude," by Barbara Platek.
It's long. Please read it when you have time to savor it. If you don't, you will miss the many gems within.
This article/interview is one of the clearest, most reasonable explorations and explanations of why human beings need to allow themselves to do their inner work that I have ever read. I hope it blesses you.